Trini Hindu wedding

[clayfairy]

ask allyuh questions here
hopefully somebody who knowledgable wud answer


why dey does parch lawa, what is the significance?...

[homebrew]

Do women dance at the wedding ceremony?

[clayfairy]

u mean when the bride an groom sit down on the marrow?

i doh think so...not while the actual ceremony goin on at least

[homebrew]

What does it cost to get a good tassa group to play at yuh wedding? or must one get the local tassa wannabes?

[clayfairy]

in the US?
i think in trini is 1000 or 2000 TTD

u gettin marrid?

[homebrew]

stick to answering the questions fairy.


Is it customary to throw money when everyone is dancing at the reception? And can the guys pick up the cash also? Or is dat only at the one I went to?

[clayfairy]

i dont know about that one...
i wonder if anybody in here cud help we

[homebrew]

this was a reception fuh punjabis eh. so yuh know.

[clayfairy]

sikhs? or hindus?

[homebrew]

I believe Hindhu.

[TEFLON DON]

I went to a Hindu wedding once in Trinidad and I ate sweet rice from a fig leaf. What is that sweet rice called? And why the fig leaf?

[clayfairy]

well...trinis call it sweet rice....
but the actual name for it is kheer

an well, the fig leaf...i guess that tradition comes from the days when the indentured labourers first came to trinidad, dey didnt have nice silverware an stuff...and a SOHARI leaf ( it's not a fig leaf) seemed to be the most economical and was easy to dispose of.
Up till now...people use sohari leaves

[TEFLON DON]

I see, thanks.

[Nightshade]

Just once Teflon...and de reason fer de fig leaf, you tink dem Indians stupid...., dem ******s pour in by de hundreds fer FREE food, no body have time to wash dishes.


I went to a Hindu wedding once in Trinidad and I ate sweet rice from a fig leaf. What is that sweet rice called? And why the fig leaf?

[TEFLON DON]

Just once Teflon...and de reason fer de fig leaf, you tink dem Indians stupid...., dem ******s pour in by de hundreds fer FREE food, no body have time to wash dishes.


I went to a Hindu wedding once in Trinidad and I ate sweet rice from a fig leaf. What is that sweet rice called? And why the fig leaf?



:censor: :no:

[Nightshade]

Tef! Tef! why you censoring yohself breds, didn't dem Marines tell you to say wat on yoh mind.....:funky:



Just once Teflon...and de reason fer de fig leaf, you tink dem Indians stupid...., dem ******s pour in by de hundreds fer FREE food, no body have time to wash dishes.


I went to a Hindu wedding once in Trinidad and I ate sweet rice from a fig leaf. What is that sweet rice called? And why the fig leaf?



:censor: :no:

[Dessalines]

When does the groom actually see the bride for the first time?

[Dessalines]

I dated an Afro-Trini girl and she told me she heard that in Indian weddings, the bride father sleeps with her first. Is there any truth to this?


Don't get me wrong, I am Indo-Trinidadian and I hope in asking these questions I can raise questions that were posed to me at one point in time or another.

[clayfairy]

When does the groom actually see the bride for the first time?


depends on if it's an arranged marriage...
if it is...it's right at the marrow

[clayfairy]

I dated an Afro-Trini girl and she told me she heard that in Indian weddings, the bride father sleeps with her first. Is there any truth to this?


Don't get me wrong, I am Indo-Trinidadian and I hope in asking these questions I can raise questions that were posed to me at one point in time or another.



i actually heard this about some other culture dess when i was younger..
but doesnt happen in indian weddings...not to my knowledge...
unless the family totally screwed up

[Dessalines]

How does one go about arranging a marriage...

[clayfairy]

u want one arranged or what... :D

erm...from what i see...the family who is looking for a prospective bride/groom...puts the word out...and then, i guess they get 'offers'...families meet...if they click and horoscopes match...the marriage happens...
if not...they continue looking

[Dessalines]

I heard that there are instances where the groom and the bride does not sleep together on the wedding night...some wait for 3 days and there is a "look-ah-nee" to spy on them.

WTF?

[clayfairy]

i dont know na dess...
it depends on the part of india you come from i guess..

[Dessalines]

How does caste affect marriage?

[Hawke]

I went to an old friend's wedding last year November in Trini (his dad is a pundit) and there was loads of food... I had something called pepper choka.. which i loved... and his best friend ws telling me that it's a traditional delicacy... Is this true, and if so.. why is this?

[clayfairy]

from my reading...it affects it a lot...
brahmins are allowed 3 wives...Kshatriya's allowed 2 wives...vaishyas and sudras 1...
women are allowed to marry down...i think...but men arent...

then i think for certain castes there are certain religious rituals...

[clayfairy]

I went to an old friend's wedding last year November in Trini (his dad is a pundit) and there was loads of food... I had something called pepper choka.. which i loved... and his best friend ws telling me that it's a traditional delicacy... Is this true, and if so.. why is this?



hawke, remember something which is traditional doesnt necessary have anything to do with religion
it's like how TD asked what does eating on the sohari leaves have to do with the wedding...
it doesnt have anythng to do with it really.. :boulet:

[Hawke]

I went to an old friend's wedding last year November in Trini (his dad is a pundit) and there was loads of food... I had something called pepper choka.. which i loved... and his best friend ws telling me that it's a traditional delicacy... Is this true, and if so.. why is this?



hawke, remember something which is traditional doesnt necessary have anything to do with religion
it's like how TD asked what does eating on the sohari leaves have to do with the wedding...
it doesnt have anythng to do with it really.. :boulet:


cool.... is it hte same with the bride being covered with saffron? Like is it compulsory?

[clayfairy]

The hardi ceremony is the application of turmeric paste on the bride and the bridegroom at their respective homes. The word †˜hardiâà ¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€Š¾Ãƒâ€šÃ‚¢ in Bhojpuri means turmeric. It is known as haldi in Hindi from the word Halad in Sanskrit. The term is given also to the ceremony of applying the turmeric paste. The custom is mentioned in ancient marriage manuals and is known as †˜Haridra Lepanaââ‚Ã⠀šÃ‚¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚¢ (applying or smearing with turmeric).

Smearing the bride and bridegroom with an ointment of turmeric root paste and mustard oil is an old Indian tradition popular in all Indian states. By virtue of its yellow colour, turmeric stands as a spiritual plant giving a divine glow. Yellow is also an auspicious colour.
There are three main reasons for applying the hardi at the time of marriage.

1. It is the tradition of the kul (family), the rit riwaaj. The kul devtas and devis are worshipped with turmeric.
2. The time of marriage is a crisis period. There is a change is manââ‚Âà ‚¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚¢s life cycle. To ensure a safe passage into the new stage, the hardi is applied to protect the bride/bridegroom against evil forces and strengthen her/him in the face of challenges in the Grihasthashram (householders life). The Veda mantras that are pronounced help to create the right atmosphere and strengthen the bride and bridegroom.
3. According to the Ayurvedic tradition †“ hardi keeps away diseases.
The hardi is a beautifying process that beats even the modern cosmetics system. It has been beautifully incorporated in the Hindu rites and rituals. The hardi colour gives a special golden glow and lustre to the body of the bride/bridegroom that defies description.

[Nightshade]

When ah get reincarnated ah want to be ah brahmin mixed wid ah lil Kshatriya and Sudras..., dat way ah could have 6 wives..., OK, ah bad at math but who cares...ah could rest on Sundays.


from my reading...it affects it a lot...
brahmins are allowed 3 wives...Kshatriya's allowed 2 wives...vaishyas and sudras 1...
women are allowed to marry down...i think...but men arent...

then i think for certain castes there are certain religious rituals...